If you’ve been following me for any length of time you’ll know that I am all about self empowerment, sometimes around here it gets called ‘Adulting’ and sometimes I talk about taking radical responsibility; whatever way you wanna slice it, there isn’t a hero or heroine on a white charger coming to save you.
You are enough, your flaws and your challenges are opportunities for growth and self empowerment. You have everything you need inside of you already. Whilst you might need help or support, you are not broken and you can take back your power if you choose to.
None of us want to admit that we are giving our power away, or that we’re allowing ourselves to be disempowered, but losing your self empowerment often isn’t conscious and often happens sneakily one micro action or micro decision at a time.
If you are not sure if you have relinquished your power and are secretly waiting for someone to save you, answer these questions:
If you answered yes to any of these, and you’re ready to take back your power and find a way to consistent self empowerment, you must first do three things:
If you often find yourself in the role of victim, persecutor or rescuer, there is another way. It is possible to go from:
Asking “why is this happening to me?” Is one of the most unhelpful questions you can ask. Asking instead “What am I learning here?” or “How can I learn and grow from this experience?’ is far more useful.
You cannot control many of life's circumstances: The weather, the traffic, other people’s opinions, but you can control your reactions, your beliefs, your behaviour and actions.
Look for evidence that you can, rather than presuming that you can’t. Actively seek out examples of your abilities to survive adversity. There are so many examples of times when something felt impossible, and yet you overcame and you made it through.
Change is inevitable, there is little point in pushing it away. If we are not growing, we’re dying - and either way, nothing remains the same, we are in constant flux and change. As humans our greatest instinct is to recreate the familiar - however uncomfortable and undesired, our superego knows that we survived everything that has already happened and its job is to keep you alive, so it recreates that which you have already lived through.
However your souls desire is for growth and full expression, which requires change and uncertainty. If you walk towards it willingly it’ll be so much more fun!
Instead of looking at the problem and looking at a way to solve it, which will only ever be a band aid, quick fix from a place of lack and “woe is me’ - focus your attention and intention on what it is that you are looking to create. Involve your senses, what will it feel like, look like, sound like, smell like? Step into a place of creativity and imagination and from this ‘juiced’ up place, ask “and what action do I want to take to move me forward now?”